Sunday, 18 March 2012
I have discovered how difficult it is to start over. I remember feeling so excited and adventurous when I first moved to Boston for school and that I acclimated almost immediately. Then again, I had to live on campus with others going through exactly the same thing and I was fortunate to have a roommate from the same area I lived in growing up.
It was different when my husband and I moved 3,000 miles cross country with no solid landing ground on the other end-– no job, barely anyone I knew, no established community of any sort. It felt isolating.I felt so discouraged and had no motivation to do much of anything. In addition, I felt overwhelmed by all the worries in my life – money, bills, food, my car registration, and other stressors. I let all this debilitate me. There would be days where I would not get out of bed or have any desire to do so, at least. I did feel numb inside for a while, having no desire to do anything, even things I used to love.
It took a lot of self-determination, a lot of positive self-talk and my choosing to seek support from close friends back in Boston who were really encouraging that got me going again. I cannot say I am feeling 100% better, especially when I want to go out somewhere and become discouraged as I remember I don’t really have any friends here, but I can offer some insight that really helped me get through the tough transition to my new home. I hope that my experience and suggestions can offer some ideas and comfort.
I can definitely attest to how difficult something can be when yor first attempt it, but don’t be afraid. The worst thing is that that something does not turn out the way you expect, but it could be better or it could be worse. Do not let yourself suffer silently. With organizations like Families for Depression Awareness that offer great resources, training webinars, tools and an active online community through Facebook, there is always someone, somewhere you can turn to even when you have no idea where to start.
--Kimberly, Families for Depression Awareness volunteer